‘It represented the other time my life became unhinged’: Chelsea Handler says her ‘outrage’ at Donald Trump’s 2016 election win was sparked by her brother’s death when she was 9
Chelsea Handler spoke candidly about how her ‘outrage’ over Donald Trump’s 2016 election win stemmed from her grief after her brother’s death when she was nine.
Speaking to Naomi Campbell about her life as part of the supermodel’s No Filter With Naomi podcast on Tuesday, she admitted her grief led her to ‘never trust men’.
Discussing how she turned to Cannabis after it was revealed Trump was the 45th President of the United States, she said: ‘Cannabis got legal in California I was like alright let’s get this s**t on the road, and that was my gateway drug to meditation and sitting still and not bouncing off the walls all the time.
‘It represented the other time my life became unhinged’: Chelsea Handler said on Tuesday her ‘rage’ after Donald Trump’s 2016 election win was sparked by her brother’s death
‘Coming to my quiet place and sitting with my feelings, in my case I had a brother who died when I was nine-years-old, and I just thought that I’d intellectually understood that, you know?
‘And when we talked about my outrage, when my therapist Dan and I talked about my outrage towards Trump it was clearly a trigger for me because it represented the other time in my life when my life became unhinged.
‘That was when my brother looked me in the eye when I was nine-years-old and said I will be back in two weeks, I will never leave you alone with these people, he was talking about my parents, and he went on a hiking trip and fell off a cliff and died two days after that.
‘I knew that he had an accident but it was a rejection, because as a nine-year-old girl you told me that you would come back and you lied to me.’
Reflecting: Chelsea said after Trump (pictured in 2016) became the President she turned to therapy where she realised her anger stemmed from her loss when she was only 9
Reflecting: Chelsea told Naomi Campbell that Trump’s win ‘was clearly a trigger for me because it represented the other time when my life became unhinged’
Detailing her family’s struggle with mourning her brother’s loss, Chelsea continued: ‘What happened with my family after that was a rejection because everyone was in their own corner of grief and none of us could comfort each other because we were all so, you know, we were so empty of anything.
‘My dad was never the same after my brother died, it was his first-born son, his oldest guy in our family, his name was Chad, I was the youngest and he was the oldest so we were kind of bookends.
‘So, that was a huge aha moment, like oh I have anger towards men because the two most important guys in my life, my dad and my brother, both disappointed me.
‘Even though it’s not their fault, as a nine-year-old girl I learned very early don’t trust men, they lie, you can’t trust them.
Looking back: Chelsea said, ‘my brother looked me in the eye when I was nine-years-old and said I will be back in two weeks, I will never leave you alone… and died two days after that’
Reaction: Following her brother’s death, Chelsea said she ‘learned very early don’t trust men, they lie, you can’t trust them’
‘You have to be fierce, you have to be independent, I don’t want any-f***ing-body paying my bills but me, and I don’t want to be dependent on any other person in my life because I can’t.’
Chelsea said her feeling of outrage was also probably the result of ‘delayed grief’ as she ‘didn’t have the tools and I didn’t have the mental equipment’ to deal with her brother’s death at such a young age.
‘You can cover that up that little injury, or that big injury, you can keep covering it up and pretending it didn’t happen, but eventually it’s going to open up and tap you on the shoulder and say “hey this doesn’t work anymore, you have to deal with it”, now your life and your anger have become unmanageable,’ she said.
Honest: Chelsea said her feeling of outrage were probably the result of ‘delayed grief’ as she ‘didn’t have the tools’ to deal with her brother’s death at such a young age
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