Gwyneth Paltrow has said she and Chris Martin ‘never quite settled into being a couple’, despite being together for a decade.
The Avengers actress met Coldplay frontman Chris in 2002 and they went on to tie the knot in December 2003, later welcoming daughter Apple and son Moses.
However, in March 2014, Gwyneth announced that she and her husband had split – or rather, ‘conscious uncouple’, a phrase that was widely mocked as it entered the pop culture lexicon – and in 2016, their divorce was finalised.
Now, Gwyneth, 47, has confessed that she knew her marriage was over three years before they announced their separation, having the realisation while spending her 38th birthday in Tuscany with Chris, 43.
In an essay for Vogue, the Oscar winner wrote: ‘My ex and I had always been friends. We laughed at the same things, shared a funny bones humour, impressions, utter silliness. We were moved by the same qualities in music: beautiful chords, innovation, harmonies.’
She added: ‘But most of all, we loved our children. We were close, though we had never fully settled into being a couple.
‘We just didn’t quite fit together. There was always a bit of unease and unrest. But man, did we love our children.’
It was three years before Gwyneth and Chris announced their separation, with the actress writing: ‘Between the day that I knew and the day we finally relented to the truth, we tried everything. We did not want to fail. We didn’t want to let anyone down. We desperately didn’t want to hurt our children. We didn’t want to lose our family.’
And a year before their break-up statement, they decided that they wanted to maintain the structure of their family, and were introduced to the term ‘consciously uncoupling’ by their therapist – something Gwyneth admits sounded ‘a bit full of itself, painfully progressive and hard to swallow’.
However, after ‘great days and terrible days’, the concept worked for Paltrow and Martin, and they have remained super close following their divorce.
Gwyneth said: ‘I know my ex-husband was meant to be the father of my children, and I know my current husband is meant to be the person I grow very old with.
‘Conscious uncoupling lets us recognise those two different loves can coexist and nourish each other.’
The Goop mogul began dating Glee producer Brad Falchuck, who she met in 2010, in 2014, with the pair tying the knot in September 2018.
Meanwhile, Yellow singer Chris has been in a relationship with Fifty Shades Of Grey actress Dakota Johnson since 2017.
While many people would run across the road to avoid their exes, Chris and Gwyneth often holiday together with Brad, Dakota and their children.
And marking Chris’s birthday on Instagram earlier this year, Gwyneth called her ex-husband a ‘hilarious, joy seeking, musical genius’.
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