CHOOSING a name for a child is a difficult decision for many parents to make, but some will have decided on their perfect name way before even finding out they were expecting.
Many parents will have had their favourite moniker set aside for years, ready for when the little one arrives.
A woman has revealed that she had decided on her name 12 years ago and was thrilled at the news she was expecting her second child.
However, before her second child arrived, the pregnant woman explained that she was left fuming when her sister-in-law stole her baby name.
The woman claimed her partner told his sister – who is also currently pregnant – the shortlist of three names they were thinking of for their impending arrival, and she later announced she would be taking one of the names for herself.
The couple are gutted at the situation, but are considering using the name anyway.
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However, they are scared they'll "cause friction" in the family because they hadn't made their name choices known to anyone else, so from the outside it will seem as though they stole the name from the man's sister.
In a post on Mumsnet, the pregnant woman wrote: "Am I right to be upset with my sister-in-law?
"My partner and I are expecting our first baby together after three years of trying and five miscarriages.
“It's finally happening and I can't believe it still!
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“I am very nervous about every aspect of this pregnancy due to illness and previous loss, meaning I am perhaps a little more guarded around talking about it as I'm so scared it still might not work out.
"We have three names short-listed and have since we started trying three years ago.
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“Several weeks ago my sister-in-law announced she was pregnant, at which time my partner told her about our shortlist of names.
“Today she’s found out the gender of hers and announced the name.
“It happens to be my favourite that I've picked out since my daughter was born 12 years ago.
“I am devastated and furious that all she said was “sorry I’m having it” to my partner.
“Our baby is due several months earlier than hers and I feel if I want to I should still be able to use the name, regardless the relationship is ruined with SIL (we’re not overly close) but it will cause friction for my partner with parents and other siblings.
“I feel as we hadn’t publicly announced our name choice we will be deemed in the wrong, but for me I wanted to wait until our babies birth.
“Am I wrong?”
Many Mumsnet users were quick to jump to the expectant parent’s defence and encouraged the mum to use the baby name anyway.
One person said: "Go ahead and use the name. I would."
While another added: "If your baby is due first I would use the name. She knows it's on your shortlist, she can't reserve it.
“If she kicks off just respond 'sorry I’m having it'. Then it's up to her if she wants to use it. She doesn’t sound very pleasant.
"My brother and one of our (younger) first cousins have the same first name. I think it annoyed my mum at the time but she got over it. It's a non-issue these days."
The mum later returned to the post to say she plans on telling her sister-in-law that she is going to use the name too and has come to terms with the fact that the cousins may share a name if her relative sticks with her decision to use the name.
She wrote: "Having slept on it, I've come to the decision that – as a person has suggested on this thread – I will be calm and assertive in that we might use that name too and it's not a big deal.
“These are people we hardly see, and our child will come across many others with the same name.
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“It's not overly rare and we have a nickname picked out too.
"Thanks again all it is sometimes nice to just have that backup, isn't it?"
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