My toddler makes me want to rip my hair out, I no longer feel bonded to her – does it ever get better?

RAISING children is no doubt one of the most stressful situations people deal with as adults – and it's completely normal to feel some type of resentment for the loss of your previous lifestyle before.

But, this mom has sadly expressed that she no longer feels connected to her 18-month old daughter as a result.


Taking to Reddit, where she chose to remain anonymous, this overwhelmed mother wrote: "Does hating the toddler stage make me a bad mom?

"My [little one] is 18 months old and I can't stand this stage. I absolutely loved the newborn and infant stage.

"I feel like a crap mom because I have zero patience with her now. I'm frustrated with all of it. I don't feel like I am bonded with her anymore.

"I dread every morning. Everyone says that it goes by fast and I'll miss this, but I can't wait to be out of it.

"I feel like I'm not doing enough for her because I can't handle this stage.

"Everything feels like a constant battle from diaper changes to eating. The tantrums and not really communicating is killing me. Does it get better?"

Sadly, this mom is not alone in her feelings as another had previously revealed her young son had basically destroyed her marriage.

She also said on Reddit: "I’m just wondering if anyone else feels like they no longer have a life of their own when they have a toddler.

"24/7, I am at my son’s mercy without reprieve. I’m a stay-at-home parent. Ended my career when I had my son 3 years ago because daycares scare me.

"My husband has a pretty demanding career but does all that he can when he’s home.

"We don’t really have a relationship anymore outside of parenting," she admitted.

"He feels similarly like our toddler dictates everything. A meal, a conversation, a moment, cannot exist without our child screaming, whining, shoving a toy in our faces, crawling all over us, etc.

"We barely speak anymore unless it’s about him, because of how demanding he is.

"He doesn’t play independently at all and needs constant entertainment.

She continued to describe that she gave up her hobbies "or anything I enjoy for him. I simply cannot do them with him around.

"I used to paint, but if I even think about getting out any supplies, he’s all into them, getting paint everywhere.

"If I try to watch tv, he screams at me for not playing with him or screams for me to put on Spongebob.

"All day, 100 percent of the time, is about him.

"Which I know… I chose to have a child… it’s not about me anymore, but I feel I have no more sense of identity or self because I give myself completely to my child.

"I can’t stay up at night and give myself alone time either, because my son somehow always hears me, and still wakes up five times a night screaming for me."

She finished her post by admitting that she knows this behavior is not normal but sadly, she has no idea what else to do.

Have you ever felt this way?



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