Man thinks he needs to break up with girlfriend over ‘world views’

A man thinks he needs to break up with his girlfriend because of their different world views.

Posting his thoughts on Reddit the man, 38, said he and his partner, 41, had “very different world views” on a variety of topics.

He added that he found out his partner was pregnant whilst they were going through a “rough patch” in their relationship, complicating matters further.

In order to find a space to air his moral conundrum, the man took to the social media site in order to find out the opinions of others.

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He wrote: “Although we haven’t been dating very long (2 years), my girlfriend and I had always talked about the possibility of having kids.

“A few months ago, we were going through a rough patch and then she found out she was pregnant.

“We talked about it and we were both optimistic that we could make things work, so we decided to keep the baby. Her age was also a big factor in that decision.

“In the weeks leading up to her moving into my place, the same issues started cropping up again.”

The user added: “We get along most days, but have very different worldviews about finances, religion, cleanliness, friends, décor, etc.

“All of which has been exacerbated by living together. Although we have a lot of similar ideas about raising kids, the particulars about this coming kid have been the source of most of our current issues. 

“For example, I had a strong idea about the name I preferred, but we eventually decided to name the kid after one of her grandparents. I genuinely like the name, and I came up with a middle name we both agreed on that would let me use the nickname I liked.

“But, since then, she has been pushing hard for me to not use the nickname (her issue is that the nickname is too common and ordinary, which I think is a strange issue to have).”

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Although the man was torn about whether or not he should break up with his girlfriend, particularly just as he is about to become a father, he said he would wait until after the child was born.

He wrote: “I am genuinely excited to be a dad, but she got pregnant while we were still getting to know each other, and the more I am learning, the more I don’t think she is the right person for me.

“I’m open to therapy, but therapy feels like something you do when you want to fight for something, and besides sharing a kid, I’m not sure what else I would be fighting for.

“I’m not planning on making any big decisions until after the baby is born, but I guess I’m just trying to figure out if there’s any way to salvage this, or if it would actually be better for the baby if we separate.”

In response to the user’s request for advice, many users criticised his attitude and debated over whether the situation would have been different had the pair been younger.

One user wrote: “You already knew that you didn’t want to be together but are trying to make it work for the baby… not saying that it can’t work but it sounds like you have already given up.

“Go to therapy for yourself, make a grown decision and if you don’t want to be together get your ducks in a row before the baby comes (visitation, child support, co-parenting, etc). That would be the best decision instead of prolonging it.

“Also my last statement I’ll make is why invest 2 years with a person when everything from morals to religion is so vastly different? Not wise. 2 years is more than enough time to decide if you want to settle down with someone.”

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